1) You need to go all out for what you want in life
I remember talking to a friend who was really into this girl. He didn’t do a thing to get to know her, but instead lamented to me about how she was dating another guy, who didn’t seem worthy to him and that he was a nice guy. He wondered why she didn’t like him.
So I told him, “But you didn’t dare to even talk to her!”
Being nice is never good enough. Nobody owes you a darn thing!
You can’t simply be a nice person and then sit around on your butt. You don’t gain what you want from “karma points” or whatever.
If you want something, you go for it. No excuses. You do what it takes. You can’t expect life to be handed over to you just because you’re nice.
2) Being nice is not part of healing
These words resonated with me so much. I can be a very angry person and I was talking to a friend about my anger issues. I repeatedly told him about how I was still a nice guy and didn’t get in trouble with the law.
He then said, “Being nice is not part of healing.”
It made me realize how we all seem to mistake that being a nice person is all that takes to heal our problems and iron out our issues.
Yes, being nice will not cause additional problems, but it’s not enough if you really want to heal. You have to look deep within, start being brutally honest with yourself and pinpoint the start of healing specifically.
3) People simply don’t care
I was once taught by a business coach, “Teachers don’t get paid the most. Entertainers do.”
That said, being popular today seems to be arguably more important than being nice.
So again, you can’t get what you want in life if you’re only nice. You have to play the game right.
Ask yourself, what can you do so you can present yourself to be nice to the masses instead of just one person? How can you make people care? How can you get their attention?
4) Sometimes, you can’t be a nice person at all
Why be nice to somebody who is completely toxic to you? Why say yes all the time? You do know that you can start say no right?
At some point in life, you need to start caring for yourself, and in turn be nice to yourself first and foremost. You need to start being selfish so you can take care of yourself.
Dump the toxic people. Say no when you have to. Reject others. Stand up for yourself! You’ve to earn others’ respect.
And you can’t do that if you’re a pushover.
5) Because life is a mystery
Everyday, in the news, we read about all the bad things happening in the world.
Innocent people get hurt. Good people die for seemingly no reason. Nice people are treated badly by bad people.
Why? Who knows? Because life is a mystery. That is a fact.
We can’t ever filter reality. Life has ups and then it has downs. People feel high and then low at times.
This isn’t to say that we should lead a paranoid life though. It simply means we need to acknowledge that in the grand scheme of things, this is how life works.
We shouldn’t argue over it then. Just be happy your own way and live life the way you want.
6) You don’t stand out if you’re only nice
Think about it: Almost everybody is nice today.
What do you think of somebody when you’re told, “Oh yeah. He’s a nice person.”
And that’s it.
I mean, it’s good to be nice, but that doesn’t mean you’d stand out.
Why not be: Charismatic, talented, funny, eloquent, spontaneous or intelligent?
And you know what? You got it in you. Let it out! don’t be shy. Don’t play safe by being nice only!
March 28, 2016
